This is an interesting issue. I did not change my name when I got married. And I know I am in the minority. But I think more and more women are keeping their names. Did you keep your maiden name or take your husband's? In this link, the woman re-married and kept her ex husband's last name. That gets tricky, I think. Unless you are famous like Faith Hill (I found it interesting to read that Hill was actually her first husband's last name. Did you guys know that?). But it gets complicated because a lot of women want to keep the same last name as their kids after divorce. Of course, I don't have the same last name as my kid. So....LOL...I guess it's all just personal preference.
I changed my name. I just couldn't imagine not doing so. But I am not a writer or an actor, so nobody but me would notice or care that my name was changed when I got married .
My SIL is getting a divorce, and is changing her name back to her maiden name. Even though her kids names won't change. I think she is just done with her ex and doesn't want to keep his name LOL!
Posts: 560 | Location: Northport, AL | Registered: 09 November 2007
And I kept my ex's last name for about five years after we divorced because I didn't want my eldest son to feel like I was rejecting him just because I'd divorced his father.
Posts: 483 | Location: Way too far from home | Registered: 09 November 2007
Yes, I took my husband's last name. I never even thought about not doing so. I guess I'm kind of traditional. I wanted to have the same last name as my husband and our future children. I didn't even keep my maiden name as my middle name, like a lot of women do. Actually, I have several friends that completely dropped their maiden names. I think it was more common for women to take it as their middle name in our mothers' generation.
When my mom and dad got divorced, my mom went back to her maiden name, because she didn't want to keep the last name of her ex.
When my step-mom got divorced, she did keep her ex-husband's last name so she would have the same last name as her children. But, when she remarried to my dad she took his last name.
When, it comes to divorce, I can see either point of view on which name to use. But, it seems strange to me to keep the last name of an ex once you remarry. But, different things work for different families.
Posts: 586 | Location: Tuscaloosa, AL | Registered: 23 January 2008
I took my husbands last name and changed my middle name to my maidan name. I never thought about not taking my husbands last name, but it wasn't until a few months before our wedding that I decided I wanted to keep my maidan name as my middle name. I do have some friends and family members who were already established in thier careers before they got married and choose to keep thier maidan names. They all seem very happy and confident in thier decisions. My SIL (who didn't change her last name) did tell me a funny story the other day regarding this. She was in the hospital and the nurses kept calling her husband by her maidan name. He has never had a problem with her not changing her name, but she said he was getting annoyed by the time they left the hospital.
I did. I wish I hadn't. My maiden name was a lot cooler! LOL Now, I am divorced, but I kept my married name so that the kids and I would have the same name.
Originally posted by SarahMay: Yes, I took my husband's last name. I never even thought about not doing so. I guess I'm kind of traditional. I wanted to have the same last name as my husband and our future children. I didn't even keep my maiden name as my middle name, like a lot of women do. Actually, I have several friends that completely dropped their maiden names. I think it was more common for women to take it as their middle name in our mothers' generation.
When my mom and dad got divorced, my mom went back to her maiden name, because she didn't want to keep the last name of her ex.
When my step-mom got divorced, she did keep her ex-husband's last name so she would have the same last name as her children. But, when she remarried to my dad she took his last name.
When, it comes to divorce, I can see either point of view on which name to use. But, it seems strange to me to keep the last name of an ex once you remarry. But, different things work for different families.
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Oh, I totally changed my name again when I remarried!LOL! My eldest and I discussed it, and by then we'd been on our own - and he was old enough - to understand how that kind of thing works. My LO sure is confused right now, though. But then, he thinks everyone we know should have our last name, too!
Posts: 483 | Location: Way too far from home | Registered: 09 November 2007
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